One word captures what Jesus is looking for from his followers—union.
"Very truly I tell you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you have no life in you."
Chances are if we are not following alongside the kind of people now who followed Jesus then we are probably not following Jesus, but some variety of establishment religion.
Jesus is not God's solutions to all of our problems. Jesus is God's gift of himself to us.
The gospel is not good to great—it's death to life.
It's one thing to become friends with another person. It's quite another to be brought inside of their friendships with others—into their community.
If we would know and do the will of God, we must release our assumptions, let go of our preferences, and renounce all rights to ourselves.